Framing my life… What does that mean exactly?? One lesson I learned from my dear friend Paul Roberts Abernathy is the value of defining words for your audience. So to “frame”, as defined by Webster’s dictionary is “to plan, shape or construct. To fit or adjust especially to something or for an end”… Now I know none of us can predict the future, but we certainly can get our New Year off to a great start by planning what we’d like to have happen in our lives. I’ve chosen to do that this year with “frames” as opposed to resolutions. I’ve spent the last 8 days working on and planning my 2018 in LEGO brick form. Resolutions usually last 30 days or less for most people, so I built “frames” which I plan to look at and focus on all year long.
First and most important for me is to keep my faith in the forefront of my life in 2018, and that goal is represented by my “Cross Frame”. It is a very different cross, just as all of us are different in many ways, but we are a community bound by our connections. I plan to enlarge my community and my love for God by making more connections and loving folks unconditionally. May we all make more connections in 2018 with folks who are different from us. I dedicate this frame to Paul Roberts Abernathy, Gayle Fisher-Stewart and Michele Morgan, who have all taught me a thing or two about faith and unconditional love in their quests for love and justice.
Next is my “Butterfly Frame”, representing the fact that we can all make changes in our lives. We may have been caterpillars but we can all become beautiful butterflies and soar. I hope to gain stronger wings and fly with more confidence in 2018. I dedicate this frame to my granddaughter Kendal, the most amazing butterfly that I know, and she’s currently raising a few butterflies of her own!
Next is my “Acceptance Frame”. It represents the fact that we don’t all fit into an 8×10 or 11×14 frame. We have bumps and curves and flaws, but they shouldn’t disqualify us from being accepted. I want to Accept others as they are and not try to force them to fit into the frame that I want them to fit in. I dedicate this frame to all caregivers, that they can accept the state of being of those they care for, and to my Mom Doris, who is different every single day and who I love more than anything!
My fourth frame is “My Calling” frame which gives me my voice to continue to inspire and teach those I’m privileged to speak to. With the love and support of all of the “pillars” in my life by my side, I pray I’ll always find the right words to share as I go out on the road again starting in January. I dedicate this frame to all the members of Loretta’s Angels, my amazing support group who inspire me to keep going even when I don’t always feel like it.
My 5th frame is called my “Scene Frame”! This frame represents all of the “scenes” that are important in our lives, places where we hang out and feel comfortable. But what would happen if we invited someone new into our “scene” or tried out a “new scene” ourselves, even if it’s outside of our comfort zones? In 2018 I plan on inviting some new folks into my “scenes” and going back to some of the ” old scenes” I shared with Tim. I also want to do more research into dementia-friendly churches and would love to attend a service with Mom.
My last frame is my favorite! It’s a series of little frames that I made into one big frame, which I simply call my “Life Frame”. I want to fill the little frames with as many experiences and adventures as possible, making the big frame a representative of the best year ever! I want to rekindle some old relationships and make some new ones. I want to see as much of this country as possible in my beautiful RV named Joy and record every second of my adventures. When you think of your 2018, who and what will be in your frames???
In my frame, I see myself spending lots of time with my family in 2018 because even though we are small we have overcome our struggles and shared great triumphs! We share unconditional love and put family first! I dedicate this frame to Kim and Kendal, also known as two-thirds of the Adventure Girls with the hope that we continue to soar, grow and love and live life to the fullest!!
I’m grateful for all of my friends and family who have helped get me through 2017, which wasn’t easy on some days! My wish for all of us is an amazing 2018 filled with love and peace! I know my angel Tim will continue to inspire me throughout 2018 whenever I need him most! Happy New Year!
Good Sunday morning and Happy New Years Eve Mrs Veney. As always the minute I see that you have posted a blog I have to prepare myself. I know you have a way with words and you always capture the moment so well. Well you certainly didnt disappoint. I love the reference to “frames”. For Christmas my siblings and I gave my mom this framed picture of all 4 of us dressed in her favorite colors wearing matching outfits something she used to do when we were all little kids. She carried the frame all Christmas Day lol. So when I read your blog referencing frame, I laughed and smiled. Thanks Mrs Veney for sharing and HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!!!!!!
Now THIS made me cry!!! What an incredible gift you gave to your Mom!! BEST PRESENT EVER!!! She may never put that frame down!!! Thank you for making me smile and cry!! Happy New Year my friend!! You are simply the BEST!!!!
Cousin Loretta Veney……
Absolutely beautiful blog.
▪ LOVE the different framed legos.
▪ You wrote from your HEART.❤
▪ You created a beautiful PICTURE
▪ Creativity ABOUNDING.
▪ HEART, FAMILY & COMMITMENT
▪ 💥KODAK AMAZING❤❤❤❤
You have my love, admiration & respect.
Duke…(Wellington William White)
Thank you sooooo much Wellington!! We have such a small family we have to stick together and love each other!! I love taking pics so much so selecting frames as my theme this year!!! Much love to you and your family!! Have an awesome 2018!!!!
A beautiful, beauty-full post. Filled with inspiration and insight. May your 2018 unfold within the wondrous frames of your imagining.
And thank you for your kind mention!
Thank you so much Paul!! It was so much fun “building” how I’d like my life to unfold in 2018! I put a lot of thought into the pieces as I reflected on both 2017 and 2018. Your prayers and sermons helped to shape my year in 2017, how could I not mention that?? Much love!
Loretta, you are a person of courage, strength and boundless accomplishments. No circumstance that comes into your life can alter who you really are. You are a person of kindness and warmth with uncounted gifts yet to give. No matter how stormy the world is around you, your spirit still shines through. Whatever life may bring, please believe in these two things – You are stronger than you may imagine and you are NEVER alone.
Love you much. Happy 2018. Will be waiting for an amazing year end update! Wiinnie
Winnie, You are one of a few people who know how hard 2017 was for me!! I do shine, but I work hard to do so because I know that’s what Tim would want. My blog is freeing for me so thanks for checking it out when you can! You love me unconditionally and you show your love for me daily!! I’m thankful I’m not alone, but I know I’m further along this year because of your love and support! Here’s to an amazing 2018 for us both!!! Love you!!
As in 2017, I’m here for you to listen, want the best for you, support you, provide words of encouragement, and care about you in our long distance. Yes, 2018 will be amazing! I have no doubt! Love you MUCH!
And I’m soooooo grateful!!!! Love you back!!!
OMG!!!!! I can’t think of any better way to ‘frame’ your experiences and your future. You are living….intentionally! Soooooo.. much different then a resolution. I love it! You are THEEEEE most unconditionally loving person I know and I can’t imagine how (yet, I am excited), by how this will frame itself for you!
Our Kendal certainly IS the most beautiful and precious of butterflies! You and her Pappy are two of the most important people to her. She doesn’t even call things ‘orange’ anymore! That color for her is now called Pappy. Already she has a frame built by the love you give her. She AND I are both who we are because of you!
Here’s to beautiful frames in 2018!!!!
YES indeed I plan on living intentionally!!! I think it will work better for me! When a situation challenges me, I’ll look to what frame applies! Then move on quickly instead of dwelling on things!! I did know about the color orange now being called Pappy! I am hoping for a year full of adventures and unconditional love!!! It’s gonna be GREAT!! Then I’ll do an assessment at the end of the year to see how well I can “frame” it!!
Here’s the beautiful frames in 2018!!!
I don’t know how I missed this post. Oh my goodness, I simply love the Framing!!! You should come to Cincinnati and have a workshop. I know people who would really enjoy your creativity! Simply the Best (smile)
Now you KNOW I’d come any time!!! Thanks for your great comments!! Framing has REALLY helped me with my grief!!! Creativity is freeing for me!!
Much Love my friend!!
Getting caught up on my reading. Thank you. As always I find your posts an inspiration and a reminder to jump in, find joy and keep moving on.
Thanks Michele!! Finding joy in every situation is absolutely what keeps me going!!!!