Bruised, But Not Broken!

I went to bed late on the night of January 16th because I was having so much fun making final preparations for the full week ahead of presentations and LEGO events. Unfortunately, I wasn’t actually IN the bed for very long! I had been very worried about Mom’s decline since I had last seen her on December 30th before the second group home lockdown caused by the pandemic. That worry turned into a very bad dream on the night of the 16th. I dreamed that my Wonder Woman Mom was dying and I was trying to get to the group home a few miles from me before she died. In my dream I was running and my neighbors were running after me to determine what was wrong. The next thing I knew I was on the floor of my bedroom along with almost everything that had been on my nightstand. I had actually fallen out of my bed for the first time in my entire life. I tried to blame it on someone else being in the room with me and pushing me out of the bed, but there was no burglar or anyone else in the room BUT ME! I immediately felt intense pain in my left side and even in the dark I could see and feel that I was laying on top of my air purifier. I was relieved that I wasn’t bleeding but the pain scared me. Trying not to panic I grabbed my headphones and quickly turned on the spa station to calm myself down before even trying to get up. It was 1:30am so I definitely didn’t want to call anyone if I didn’t need to. I could breathe, though a deep breath hurt like crazy but I was pretty sure my ribs weren’t broken. I listened to a few songs before getting up and deciding what to do next. I got back in bed and slept off and on for a couple of hours before finally getting up.

Later that morning on January 17th I got a call from the group home confirming what I was already worried about and had resulted in my bad dream. Mom was declining and having greater difficulty swallowing even the Ensure that she loves. That same afternoon because I was still in a lot of pain from my fall I went to Patient First to confirm what I suspected, that my ribs were bruised but not broken. Even now, more than a week later I’m still in a lot of pain from the ribs every day, but at least I can sleep thanks to my adjustable Sleep Number Bed! The last week has been a blur with my presentations and LEGO events, phone calls with Mom’s caregiver Janet and my visits with Mom, which are an absolute BLESSING! One of the most difficult parts of this week was being in the room on Monday while the hospice nurse examined Mom. We are keeping her comfy and ensuring that she’s not in any pain. That said, there is still so much JOY in Wonder Woman… I still get the “HELLO” when I come in, and the “Bye Bye” when I leave. I fill her room with laughter and Joy while I’m there and Janet is giving Mom all of the love and attention she needs when I’m not there! The most amazing part of all this for me is that even though she’s getting much weaker and can no longer pull her LEGO bricks apart or put them together, she can still wrap her fingers around them and push them around her blanket, and she even smiles while doing it.

We all know how this will end, but as I look back on the amazing journey during this 16 years since her dementia diagnosis, there are so many incredible moments of joy that I will NEVER forget. I’m writing this post because so many of you have been on this journey with us and have inspired us with your comments, love and support. When that day comes when my Wonder Woman Mom is no longer with us, because of all the lessons I’ve learned from her about “carrying on no matter what” I will be very bruised but not broken. I know you all will be right there with me! Much love to you all and to my Wonder Woman!


19 thoughts on “Bruised, But Not Broken!

  1. One word: poignant. Another word: powerful. Most importantly, your words: …when my Wonder Woman Mom is no longer with us, because of all the lessons I’ve learned from her about “carrying on no matter what” I will be very bruised but not broken…

    One penultimate word: Amen!

    One ultimate (always) word: Love

    • Thank you PRA!!!!! As you always say I will “CARRY ON”!! Thanks for being on this journey with me!! I’m so comforted by the fact that Mom can still read or hear the words of your sermons through your book For the Living of These Days!! We love you back!

  2. Loretta, I am in wonderment over your extraordinary spirit. Sending love and courage for the living of these days. Xxx

  3. My dear Mrs V. You inspire and help so many. You are truly an inspiration to me and countless others. I will always keep you and your beautiful Wonder Woman in my prayers.

  4. How difficult to watch someone you love decline. You have seen her come back before, thus her Wonder Woman title. No matter what the future holds, you know who holds her. You have traveled a long road with her and made her journey one full of life and laughter and JOY. She is so blessed to have you walking the road with her.
    May God give you peace as you continue the
    journey. Take care my friend and know you have the support of oh so many friends.
    We’re praying for you both🙏🏻🙏🏻❤️❤️

    • Meg, YES indeed my sister I thought about how many times she’s bounced back before I wrote this. She truly IS Wonder Woman!!! I think she’s tired now though but we shall see! I just treasure all of love and support of my friends / sisters! Where would I be without y’all??? Appreciate all the prayers!

    • Amen my friend!!!!! Some of what I saw on Monday with the nurse I can never unsee, but I’m glad I was there. I’m definitely accepting of where we are cause she’s fought like crazy! They told me last March she had days to live so I feel these extra months have been a huge bonus!!

  5. My dear Loretta,
    I’m in agreement with Monica and Robert, It is Well and Lord have mercy You do so much for others, your energy and inspiration is the light in my life! My face lights up and my heart fills with Joy when you share pictures of Your Mom….Wonder Woman with us. Please take care of yourself 😊 Prayers are being lifted for you and Mom! 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾😇

    • Thank you my sister!!! Wonder Woman inspires all of us so I definitely wanted to share this part of the journey too!! So many people love her!!! I promise you I’m taking care of myself!!!! Thanks for the prayers and I’ll see you on Sat!! Love you

  6. Dear Loretta,

    Ever since I read your post in mid-week you and your beautiful Wonder-Mom have been on my mind and in my heart. I hope you’re recovered from your fall and bruised ribs by now. So sorry that happened, but I’m so glad you weren’t too badly hurt.

    I do know well the path you are treading with your mom, having been there myself not so long ago. You are so affirming – no surprise there! – of the easily-overlooked but genuine blessings of this holy time. As your mom moves toward leaving, I believe you will see more and more small miracles. You have both cultivated the ground in which grace grows, and once planted, it keeps growing. May you have many more moments of joy and peace with her.

    Please take care of yourself, my dear friend. You and your mom are held closely in my heart, and you have my prayers every day. I will so look forward to being able to spend some time with you in a couple of months. Until then, please hug your mom from me, and be well.

    Much love,


    • Hi Karen!!

      Thank you soooo much my dear sister!! The ribs are coming along but still remind me that they are injured if I move around too quickly!!

      Mom is definitely fighting all the way but hospice did confirm this afternoon that she’s transitioning. I’m thrilled with all the amazing memories we’ve made!! Best Wonder Woman Mom ever!!

      I’m absolutely looking forward to visiting you and the fam in March!! What fun that will be!!

      Thanks for being on this journey with us!!!!

      Love you much!!


      • Loretta,

        I hope so much that you will be able to be with your mom as much as you want and need to in the coming days.

        Prayers and a lot of love coming your way,


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